Bigger Christians, Not Bigger Churches

My wife and I recently put out the big bucks for a month's membership at the local YMCA. We've talked for a long time about the need to be healthier, but had yet to do the necessary things to make it happen. We had to be at the Y for something last week, and that did it for us. Unfortunately that was a week and a half ago, and I still haven't gone to work out. Obviously I was there on the day we signed up, so that should count as a visit even though I didn't do any exercise while we were there. When they gave us a tour, it was hard not to feel a bit out of place. I'm in the worst shape I've ever been in, not having done anything competitive in a decade. Yet walking around the Y, there were plenty of people sweating profusely and enjoying it, as well as guys lifting weights so heavy that when the bar went back on the rack, I could feel the floor shaking. (Sure, there were also plenty of people there in a physical condition much closer to mine, but I didn't take as much notice of them.)

While it felt intimidating in a way, there was also certainly a sense of it being right. If we had walked around the Y without seeing anyone who looked healthy, there would be a serious problem. Health clubs don't exist just to get people to sign up; they're there to help people get healthy.

Pause those thoughts about a health club for a moment and think about a church. The focus in churches often comes down to how many people are there. Or, broader than numbers of people, churches easily focus on the "ABCs of church growth": attendance, buildings, and cash.

I need to preface the remainder of my remarks with admitting that for most of my life, I've had an anti-large church bias. I'm not sure what to attribute that to, except the fact that I had always been in small churches, and I guess we all like to think we're doing things better than everyone else. I've gotten rid of the bias during the last two years, which has been very convenient in timing as I've been on staff at a large church for the first time.

Giving up my bias, and experiencing some of the goodness of a large church has helped me to realize something simple about small churches: there is some reason that they are small. It's possible that the reason is that they're in a rural area and have already reached and discipled everyone within driving distance, but I've yet to come across such a church (although there are some great churches in small towns). More likely causes for a church remaining small could be disfunction among members, no interest in engaging the world around them, a lack of leadership ability, a refusal to accept change, etc., etc., etc. Generally, if we are communicating the message that Jesus preached and have any serious roadblocks out of the way, churches will grow. This is my disclaimer to establish that I am no longer a Christian with an anti-large church bias, which some of you may need to keep in mind in the rest of what I write in this post.

I once heard Dallas Willard say, "We need to stop counting the people who come to our churches and start weighing them." Obviously he wasn't advocating that we place scales around our churches and start singing, "O Jesus, Lord of My Girth" (all credit to Stu Smith for the hymn title). Rather, he was making the point that the number of people who come is only relevant if they are reliably becoming more like Christ in the substance of who they are. Or, back to the health club, the number of members is irrelevant if no one there is getting healthy. Although health clubs would probably go out of business if it was a rarity to have members become and stay healthy, it is highly possible to have a very large church whose people do not naturally become any more Christlike as time passes. We can work hard, do everything with "excellence," be extremely well-organized with strong leadership at all levels, and if those components are in place, chances are that a church in our culture will not have trouble drawing a crowd. But those characteristics in themselves say nothing about whether or not people in the church are naturally growing in their love for God and others.

Another way of looking at what we're aiming for, which I've also heard Dallas Willard and James Bryan Smith talk about, is that rather than aiming at building bigger churches, we should aim at building bigger Christians. Surely some health clubs get this right. They exist to help people get fit, and if they do that extremely well, I doubt they have trouble finding business. If I were a health club director, my primary goal would be to get as many people as possible onto a reliable path to getting and staying fit. So, as a pastor, that means that my primary goal is to help those under my influence to enter ever more fully into "the life that really is life" (1 Tim. 6:19), leading them in the kind of lifestyle that will naturally produce the love, joy, and peace of Christ deep within them as they learn to rely on God's grace.

Also as a pastor, it means that I have to be experiencing the kind of life I'm promoting to others. I suppose that health clubs can run successfully as businesses without fit directors, but that seems difficult. Pastors can certainly build big churches without having had their characters transformed to be very significantly like that of Jesus, but it's very difficult to build "big" Christians without doing so. In fact, without Christ's character growing in us through God's grace, we likely won't even know what it would mean to make "bigger Christians" and may not even realize it if we met one. Because we naturally lead people to become like us, building bigger Christians requires those in Christian leadership themselves to be apprentices of Jesus, learning to do everything he taught us. (See my earlier post, "Is Leadership Overrated?")

Maybe I'm giving health clubs too much credit. I'm sure they also occasionally fall into the trap of focusing on expanding their customer base without giving the needed attention to how effectively they're helping the people already there become healthy. If that's true, the largest health club in your town is not necessarily the one most likely to help you get in shape. And the largest church may not be the place that can most effectively help you experience Jesus' kind of life. Size is not the point. The point is bigger Christians, not bigger churches.

It Bothers You More Than It Bothers God

 

Several months ago, I was playing with my son in our backyard. We have a freestanding porch swing where I prefer to spend a significant percentage of my life, so I sat on the swing while he had toys that he was playing with in the grass. I love it when he wears his cowboy hat, and he really liked wearing it that day. I was enjoying watching him play, and then at times, he would put his toy down, come climb up in the swing next to me and just sit next to his daddy on the swing, wearing his cowboy hat. Then, pretty quickly, he would see something else he wanted to play with, get down and play with it for a while, then crawl back in the swing with me, and the cycle kept repeating. 
My heart felt so full that afternoon. I loved it that even though he had his toys there and enjoyed playing with them, at times he still wanted to come sit with his daddy on the swing in his cowboy hat. The fact that something else would quickly grab his attention didn’t bother me in the least. He wasn’t yet two, and I was much more capable of enjoying his company than he was mine, but it still made my heart want to burst with joy and pride over that little guy when he did turn his attention to me and wanted to be by my side.
When we pray, it is easy to become discouraged, thinking that we have not prayed "well" because our minds have gone in a hundred different directions rather than staying focused on God during the time of prayer. The best spiritual guides I've read and listened to encourage us to completely do away with the categories of praying "well" or "poorly" because of their irrelevance to how God works in us in prayer. They say that the part we play in prayer is mainly just showing up, and I'm convinced that's the part that matters most to God. Distractions will come to us when we pray, and since I expect that's been the case for the huge majority of people who have ever walked the planet, I doubt God is surprised or bothered when it happens to us, particularly in a time that we have set aside to be with him. Even with the distractions, we end up giving God more of our attention when the time is set aside than when it isn't. Surely the distractions bother us much more than they do him.
So, when we realize that the distractions have come, the best advice I've been given is just not to hang on to them with our attention. Rather, as if they were a cloud going by in the sky or a piece of wood floating on a river, we just let them pass by. Once we're aware that the distraction has come and we've made an decision to let it go, then, we crawl back up in the swing with our cowboy hats on and return our attention to our Father, and continue enjoying the chance to be together.

Scripture Plaques You Won't Find at the Christian Bookstore, #1

[This post is the first of a series of potential Christian plaques that we would never find at a Christian bookstore. See the other posts listed at the bottom of this one.]

For some time, I've entertained myself with thoughts of making a collection of verses from the scripture that are legitimately in the Bible, but nonetheless would never be engraved on a plaque for sale in a Christian bookstore.

And I begin with a classic:

My complete list (so far) of Christian plaques we'll never find at a Christian bookstore:

  1. 1 Timothy 5:23
  2. No offense to my beloved family, I’m just quoting the words of our Lord… Luke 14:12
  3. This one has made me scratch my head for years. Surely there’s some good explanation about what the Greek word originally meant, etc.: Luke 16:9
  4. For some reason, Jesus’ teachings that have to do with things like sparrows, lillies, and trees have remained more popular than this one: Luke 17:37
  5. This plaque would come with a free framed photo as a gift: Proverbs 11:22
  6. This one might actually sell pretty well: Proverbs 21:9
  7. I‘m including this one minus the usual sarcasm. Your church’s next evangelism campaign may be much healthier if everyone dwells on this for a while: Matthew 23:15
  8. I could also include this passage in a series called, “Scripture passages I’m thankful I’ve never been required to memorize.": 1 Chronicles 2:25-27
  9. Perhaps if Christian bookstore did carry this plaque, it would be packaged together with a new CD titled something like:“The Best of the Mega-SuperStars of Worship, Volume XIX": Isaiah 29:13
  10. Here’s an approach for accountability groups who take their role very seriously: Deuteronomy 13:6-9
  11. These plaques would come in a set of two. And perhaps a more accurate title for them would be “Scripture Plaques You Won’t Find at the [Protestant] Christian Bookstore.”: Romans 2:13 and James 2:24
  12. This is good news for many of us, particularly during football season: Psalm 149:5
  13. Joshua 24:15 makes such a popular plaque ("As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord"), that perhaps we could also include verse 19 in a longer plaque: Joshua 24:15,19.
  14. These are actually very important: Psalm 22:1, Matthew 27:46, Mark 15:34.
  15. Everybody quotes Leviticus 19:18, even Jesus: "love your neighbor as yourself." But what about Leviticus 19:19? Better check your closet!
  16. Moses is certainly a hero of the Scriptures, and is described as someone who spoke to God face to face, as a man speaks with his friend. Well, I've never had a friend say this to me, face to face or otherwise: Numbers 11:19.
  17. If you think your favorite approach to baptism is thoroughly biblical, please let me know what you do with this: 1 Corinthians 15:29.
  18. Need an excuse to launch a line of high-end luxury products for Christian women? Look no further than Jesus' own words: Luke 12:33.
  19. I do happen to be a member of my state's cattle raiser's association, and I believe I've just found our divine endorsement: Romans 14:2.

Pecan Orchards and Holiness

[This is one of the posts telling a story from the life of my Dad. Click here to see the others.]

My Dad has poured the majority of his adult life's work into his pecan orchard. It's a great place. 53 acres of land and about 2,600 trees in an area where we don't see much water or enjoy many trees is remarkable. More remarkable, though, is how peaceful it is there. It isn't very often in the kind of lives most of us lead that we get to be somewhere where it's quiet enough that we cannot hear the sound of any car, machine, or other person, but it's like that in the orchard. Often the only sound you'll hear is the breeze blowing in the trees. We had some friends in the orchard with us on Saturday, and we all noticed the lack of the sounds we were accustomed to and the presence of more natural ones. One of them said the breeze sounded like God was breathing on us. I'd never thought of it like that, but it's certainly a place where I've been aware of God's presence, so his description fits.

As we were there last weekend, I thought about how similar that orchard is to our lives in God, particularly in understanding God's role and our roles in our growth. There are plenty of things in nature that God has accomplished on his own, but that orchard isn't one of them; my Dad has put nearly 40 years of constant work into it. It would not have just popped up without him. Yet regardless of how much effort he put in, neither could my Dad make those trees grow. All that he has ever been able to do is to put into place the conditions in which growth will occur naturally. The planting, watering, pruning, and harvesting have all required his effort, but all of them together cannot produce a single pecan tree. My Dad has put in plenty of effort throughout the process, doing his part, in order to give nature the opportunity to do hers.

In her book, Sacred Rhythms, Ruth Haley Barton describes the same characteristic of the spiritual life: “In the end, this is the most hopeful thing any of us can say about spiritual transformation: I cannot transform myself, or anyone else for that matter. What I can do is create the conditions in which spiritual transformation can take place, by developing and maintaining a rhythm of spiritual practices that keep me open and available to God.”

That is what we do as Christians, "create the conditions... that keep us open and available to God." In fact, it is all that we do. It can, and will, take a lifetime of effort on our part, yet in what seems like a paradox, it requires much effort and yet we are utterly powerless to make ourselves grow in any measure. We cannot force any more love, joy, or peace into our lives. Thankfully, though, just as there are natural processes in place in nature that have allowed 53 acres of pecan trees to grow in this "dry and thirsty land," God's grace is dependably available to work in us when we arrange our lives accordingly. We have to put in effort throughout the process, doing our part, in order to give God the opportunity to do his.

"...work out your own salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who is at work in you..." (Philippians 2:12-13)

A Parable of Churchville

[This is one of a series of posts related to the REVEAL Spiritual Life Survey. To see the others, click here.] Welcome to Churchville, Population 10. (Generally very good and likeable people.)

An exciting opportunity has come to Churchville, as electricity has become available to the residents.

Time passes, and a very interesting thing happens. Half of the residents of Churchville take advantage of the availability of electricity by bringing it into their homes. One of these comes to believe so strongly in the benefits of electricity that he (upper left) is willing to give anything for the sake of electricity and deeply desires for all of his neighbors to come to experience it as he has. The four others who have connected to electricity are also enthusiastic about it. It has dramatically changed how they live their everyday lives. This "connected" half of Churchville's population all exhibit a love of electricity and a high degree of hospitality toward and concern for their neighbors.

But half of our residents of Churchville have never chosen to connect their homes to the available electric current, and they have varying reasons. One of them simply isn't convinced that electricity exists. He says that his neighbors who claim to have electricity in their homes are just fooling themselves with wishful thinking. Yet, even though he thinks these five neighbors of his are living under a delusion, he remains in Churchville rather than leaving, because it's a good place to be.

The other four of our non-electric residents are a bit more of a puzzle. They believe in electricity, but for whatever reason still have yet to make the appropriate arrangements for it to come into their home. The most notable thing, though, was three of these four seem to be unaware that they are living without electricity! They talk and often act as if they have it in their homes, even to the point of occasionally buying an appliance or sending the electric company money for the bill they think they owe. (One of them even volunteers to serve on the board of the electric company.) Yet these three continue to go on with their electricity-less lives, with no realization that they could be living any differently.

Only one of the non-electric residents notices the gap between how she is living and what her life would be like with electricity. One of the "connected" neighbors gave her a light bulb, and she really wants more light in her house. Neighbors and electric company workers are confident that she will make the necessary arrangements and become connected soon.

So what's the point of the parable? I am a big fan of the REVEAL Spiritual Life Survey for churches. It seeks to give church leaders a measurable way of looking at how effectively they help people grow. Our church participated almost two years ago, and will take our second survey this fall to see how we have improved.

Our results indicate that somewhere close to 1/2 of our people have yet to significantly arrange their lives in ways that would make growth in their love for God and others natural. Also, of these, only about 1 in 5 recognize that things should be different.

Of all of the things that are presented to church leaders as worthy of our time and energy, nothing is more essential than this: modeling and communicating how profoundly good it is to live our lives fully in the kingdom of God, so that any others who desire to do so will know how, and that others will have a more accurate understanding of what it is they're being invited to in the Christian life.

"Jesus went into Galilee, proclaiming the good news: 'It's time. The kingdom of God is now available. Change your mind and direction and believe the good news." (Mark 1:15, paraphrase)