Day 13: Wesley's Guidelines for Giving to Others

One of my more peculiar hobbies is reading sermons from the 1700s by John Wesley. The positive side of this hobby is that his sermons were brilliant. The lives of Christians from any tradition would be deeply enriched by reading them. The negative side of this hobby is that his sermons were long and boring. Christians from any tradition would fall asleep while reading them. Apparently good jokes weren't seen as an essential part of sermon preparation in 18th century England. From my perspective, the value of the brilliance of the sermons outweighs the challenge of drudging through them, because of those times when I come across something that's highly beneficial. This happened a couple of years ago as I was working my way through his series on Jesus' Sermon on the Mount. In the sermon [not so very creatively] titled, "Upon Our Lord's Sermon on the Mount, Discourse Three," Wesley responds to Jesus' statement, "Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you" with three very simple, but very helpful guidelines. They apply just as well in our day as in his.

1. Carefully avoid being in debt to anyone. Wesley makes the point that if we have debts, the things we give to help others are not our own to give, but they belong to someone else. Debt was a big problem in Wesley's day (his father, a priest, spent time in debtor's prison), and it is a huge problem for us today. Perhaps debt is more complex and sophisticated for us today than it was three hundred years ago, but principle is still clear: We are freest to do good for others with our resources when we owe nothing to anyone.
2. Take care of your own household. Wesley instructs us not even to consider things our own that are required for the physical and spiritual well-being of those in our own families. Caring for them is as much of a duty to God as anything else we do.
3. Then, give everything that remains, day by day and year by year for the good of others. He also notes that it will be impossible to address all of the needs in the world with the limitations we all have on how we can give of ourselves and our resources, so we should consider first the needs of "the household of faith," our brothers and sisters in Christ, wherever they may be.

Certainly this plan, written so long ago, doesn't spell out every detail of how we should handle giving for others today. But it is a serious call to deny ourselves and follow Jesus through giving, and as we consider this week Jesus' words that we're given each Lent, "When you give...,"we should reflect on how we can each best apply these three guidelines. (Perhaps a needed Lenten decision for some of us is to apply these things in more detail, and an excellent plan for our day is contained in Dave Ramsey's Baby Steps and Financial Peace University.)

A Prayer for the Day:

Lord God, almighty and everlasting Father, you have brought us in safety to this new day: Preserve us with your mighty power, that we may not fall into sin, nor be overcome by adversity; and in all we do, direct us to the fulfilling of your purpose; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.*

A Prayer for the Week:

Almighty God, you know that we have no power in ourselves to help ourselves: Keep us both outwardly in our bodies and inwardly in our souls, that we may be defended from all adversities which may happen to the body, and from all evil thoughts which may assault and hurt the soul; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, for ever and ever. Amen.*

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*From The Book of Common Prayer

[This is part of 40 Days of Prayer: Daily Emails for Lent]

Day 12: Don't Give To Be Seen By Others

When I was in high school, I was part of a student club which occasionally did community service projects. Looking back on my experience with that organization now, apparently the point of its existence and of our participation in it was so that people could look at us and think, "O wow, look, they're part of that club that occasionally does community service projects." I remember one project in particular, which we spent more time planning than any other. We had made preparations to give a group of single mothers a special day to themselves. We were going to provide childcare and arrangements had been made for the ladies to have an enjoyable day with manicures and other things that our female sponsor was sure these ladies would enjoy.

It was a good idea, but it fell apart for the worst of reasons. Providing those ladies with a restful and enjoyable day was a very secondary motivation for our group. The primary reason our club worked harder to organize that community service project than any other was the possibility of winning a statewide award for our school's chapter of the organization. The plan was in place: one person had a connection with someone from the newspaper, who would would write up a story about our generous activities that day. Then our sponsor was going to make sure that the media's coverage of us got into the hands of people at the state level of our organization. We were sure that an award and recognition would follow.

The plan came to a crashing halt when, a few days before our project, the person from the newspaper let us know that something else had come up and they wouldn't be able to cover our [ridiculously self-centered] day of service. The worst part of it all (for which I should probably get on my knees right now–two decades later–and ask forgiveness) is that we called the day off because the media wasn't going to be able to cover it.

Lord, have mercy.

As a teenager, I and my peers (and our adult sponsor) obviously didn't know this teaching of Jesus very well:

Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven. So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. (Matthew 6:1-4, NIV)

We cannot both be followers of Jesus and do good for others in order to be seen and get credit for it. Rather, followers of Jesus should give/do good for others so often–in every way and at every appropriate opportunity–that it becomes ingrained habit, where we can do good without even realizing what we've done. That's the point about not letting "your left hand know what your right hand is doing."

It's like when we drive a certain route in a car so many times, and eventually our body can virtually drive the route for us. Then sometimes we arrive at our destination and think, "How did I get here? Did I pass the store? Did I stop at that light?" (Okay, sometimes I do this. If no one else does, it might be a good idea for you all to stay out of my way on the road.) From these words of Jesus, we are challenged to give to others often enough that the good things we do become routine–even to the point that we don't notice, and then it certainly won't matter whether others do or not.

A Prayer for the Day:

O God, the author of peace and lover of concord, to know you is eternal life and to serve you is perfect freedom: Defend us, your humble servants, in all assaults of our enemies; that we, surely trusting in your defense, may not fear the power of any adversaries; through the might of Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.*

A Prayer for the Week:

Almighty God, you know that we have no power in ourselves to help ourselves: Keep us both outwardly in our bodies and inwardly in our souls, that we may be defended from all adversities which may happen to the body, and from all evil thoughts which may assault and hurt the soul; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, for ever and ever. Amen.*

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*From The Book of Common Prayer

[This is part of 40 Days of Prayer: Daily Emails for Lent]

Day 11: When You Give...When You Pray...When You Fast

Every year, the first words of Jesus that we are given to read during Lent are the same (in the readings for Ash Wednesday). They come from the Sermon on the Mount, which is likely the teaching of Jesus that has had more influence than any other in the two millennia between the time that he first spoke these words and today. In this section of his sermon (Matthew 6:1-18–take a moment and read it now if possible), Jesus focused on spiritual practices and helpful and unhelpful ways to go about them. This is why we begin each Lent with them. During these days leading up to Easter, we rightly increase our attention on our spiritual practices, because we can't return to God with all our hearts while continuing to do things as we always have. Yet Jesus' words indicate his adamance about two things:

First, these kinds of practices are so good that they will always be part of the lives of those who follow him in any real sense. Notice that Jesus did not say, "If you give... if you pray... if you fast," but "when you give... when you pray... when you fast..." His sermon assumes what was true in his day–that anyone committed to a devout life with God did these things then, and also that his followers in the future would continue to do them now.

Second, despite how good these practices are, it's possible to do them in ways that are harmful rather than helpful–both to us and those around us. We can give, pray, and fast in ways that open the channels for God's grace to work in our souls, or we can do them in ways that close those channels off but still leave us appearing very religiously devout before others. Therefore, and this is Jesus' ultimate point in this passage, we should do these outward practices, but they miss the point without an inward openness to God.

For the next three weeks, we will dig in to this passage and these practices, focusing during the remainder of this week on "when you give," then next week on "when you pray," followed by "when you fast," seeking to find the most helpful ways that each of us can put them into practice in our lives today.

A Prayer for the Day:

O God, the King eternal, whose light divides the day from the night and turns the shadow of death into the morning: Drive far from us all wrong desires, incline our hearts to keep your law, and guide our feet into the way of peace; that, having done your will with cheerfulness while it was day, we may, when night comes, rejoice to give you thanks; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.*

A Prayer for the Week:

Almighty God, you know that we have no power in ourselves to help ourselves: Keep us both outwardly in our bodies and inwardly in our souls, that we may be defended from all adversities which may happen to the body, and from all evil thoughts which may assault and hurt the soul; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, for ever and ever. Amen.*

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*From The Book of Common Prayer

[This is part of 40 Days of Prayer: Daily Emails for Lent]

The Streak Ends

Almost three months ago, I set out on an experiment for this year: that I would follow my own advice which I've made available to the world in Live Prayerfully to its farthest reasonable limit by praying in each of the three ways described there (with other people's words, without words, and with my own words) every day for a year. I had quite a streak going. Until yesterday.

One of the methods of praying with other people's words that I describe in the book is a practice that I've become very attached to over the last few years, fixed-hour prayer, which consists of pausing at set times of the day to pray with words that have been passed down to us, including psalms and the Lord's Prayer. The way I've presented it in the book is pretty common, with four times to pause and pray each day: morning, midday, evening, and night.

There's no question that there was quite a bit of fudging that has factored in to my being able to say that I'd kept this streak up for three months. It wasn't unusual for me to forget to pray my midday prayer, for example, until 4 or 5 p.m. Or, particularly with praying without words: multiple times, when I laid my head on my pillow to go to sleep at night, I realized that I hadn't done it at all during the day . So I tried to be aware of God's presence as I fell asleep and I let that count for the day.

The biggest fudges were two days when I didn't realize my neglect of praying without words as I laid my head on my pillow, and it only occurred to me when I looked at my clock around 6:00 a.m. the next morning. I rationalized, "Well, as long as I lay here for a minute and pray without words before falling back asleep and I haven't yet prayed morning prayer, I can still count this on the books as being for the previous day."

The fudges got me by until yesterday, when I pulled out my midday prayers around 1:00 p.m. and realized that I never said morning prayers, and I knew the streak was over. I had a bit of disappointment initially, but then was glad to think back through things as the day went on and pay attention to what has happened.

In the beginning of the experiment, praying in these three ways every day–including pausing at the four times each day, was such a big change from my normal routine that I spent a good deal of time thinking about how I was going to do the praying even before it was time to pray. There was anticipation involved. I had to find routine places, times, and methods for making it happen. I knew that praying without words would be the most difficult of the practices to find time for each day, so I was in the habit of taking the first opportunity that presented itself during the day to practice it.

I can look back over the past few weeks, though, and notice how those things had changed. The anticipation wasn't really there anymore. Rather than planning and feeling like I had my foot on the gas pedal in this experiment, I was coasting along. Rather than taking the first opportunity to pray without words, I was leaving it for the end of the day more often, which was resulting in the necessity of more fudging for the sake of keeping my streak going. The coasting continued until missing yesterday's morning prayer got my attention enough to help me realize what had been happening.

I realize that, in one sense, the entire streak is a bit silly. When I started the experiment, I admitted that–for this year–I was setting myself up to live as an intentional legalist, and I was okay with that. The purpose of the year-long experiment is to push my own advice to its limits and give me some things to write about; the purpose of the experiment is not that I'm encouraging anyone else to pay this much attention to how long their streaks last.

But on the other hand, for myself, I'm becoming fond of this brand of intentional legalism (or as Robert pointed out, perhaps it's better termed as methodism). I've not crossed the legalist line in the sense of thinking that God is disappointed with me because I forgot morning prayers yesterday. But the positive side is that without having publicly given myself these "rules" for how I would pray during these years, I would probably be doing as I had done in every previous year of my life: not making any plans ahead of time about how I would pray, not looking for the opportunities as they present themselves, and therefore not praying as often, and–much more importantly–not living as prayerfully.

So, on to a new streak.

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Something I've prayed this week:

O God, whose glory it is always to have mercy: Be gracious to all who have gone astray from your ways, and bring them again with penitent hearts and steadfast faith to embrace and hold fast the unchangeable truth of your Word, Jesus Christ your Son; who with you and the Holy Spirit lives and reigns, one God, for ever and ever. Amen (Prayer for the Second Sunday in Lent from The Book of Common Prayer)

[This is the 23rd post from A Year of Living Prayerfully]

Second Sunday of Lent

Readings for the Second Sunday of Lent:

Genesis 15:1-12, 17-18 Psalm 27 Philippians 3:17-4:1 Luke 13:31-35 or Luke 9:28-43a

A Prayer for the Day:

O God, you make us glad with the weekly remembrance of the glorious resurrection of your Son our Lord: Give us this day such blessing through our worship of you, that the week to come may be spent in your favor; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.*

A Prayer for the Week:

O God, whose glory it is always to have mercy: Be gracious to all who have gone astray from your ways, and bring them again with penitent hearts and steadfast faith to embrace and hold fast the unchangeable truth of your Word, Jesus Christ your Son; who with you and the Holy Spirit lives and reigns, one God, for ever and ever. Amen.*

*From The Book of Common Prayer

[This is part of 40 Days of Prayer: Daily Emails for Lent]

Day 10: Enchiladas, Steering Wheels, and Following Jesus to the Cross

Two items caught my attention as Lent started last year. First, the picture above: Perhaps I’ve never enjoyed looking at a sign at a gas pump as much as I enjoyed this one. Promoted there, alongside the Marlboros and breakfast burritos, is–apparently–an opportunity to repent and hear a first-century Jewish rabbi’s call to deny ourselves, take up our own crosses, and follow him as he walked the road into his own unjust death.

Hey that sounds good. Oh, and let me grab a bag of Doritos to go with my three denying-myself cheese enchiladas. I think the man upstairs is pretty happy with me today! Maybe I'll even ask if they have any more sackcloth and ashes behind the counter when I get my cigarettes.**

The other attention-grabber was an article about churches offering drive-thru Ash Wednesday services. It's good for churches to begin to think beyond the way they’ve always done things, and much of the beginnings of my own Methodist heritage is based on how John Wesley was determined to preach in places that weren’t normal. But still…

 ”From dust you came and to dust you will return. Repent and believe the gospel… Yes ma’am, that means changing the entire course of your life… No ma’am, getting out of the car isn’t required to do so…. Say, is that Lady Gaga you have on the radio?… Okay, have a nice day [living exactly as you always have.]“

In their defense, there’s probably at least someone who has had an encounter with God right there in their car because of these churches doing this who wouldn’t have otherwise. I’m sure that I don’t know the whole story here, so I’m not offering criticism of these specific churches since I’m not there trying to figure out how to minister in their context as they are doing.

But, in general, in what kind of training are we involving people when we encourage them to begin Lent (of all times) without even bothering to get out of the car? Or, to put it another way, what percentage of people receiving an imposition of ashes while continuing to sit behind their steering wheel would we honestly expect to continue, for the rest of their lives, down the road of being whole-hearted, full-throttle followers of Jesus? Again, there may be some example of someone to whom that has happened, for which I’m grateful. But is such a case a natural, predictable result of the way we do things with God, or are they just strange exceptions to the rule?

Lent is a time for house-cleaning our souls, so that when we come to Holy Week and Easter Sunday, we’re prepared for the resurrection of the crucified Messiah to take more of its intended effect upon us. It’s a time to pay attention to how dis-oriented we have become in the ways that we have lived our everyday lives and to find ways that we can re-orient ourselves to the one who said,

If any want to become my followers, let them deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. For those who want to save their life will lose it, and those who lose their life for my sake, and for the sake of the gospel, will save it. For what will it profit them to gain the whole world and forfeit their life? Indeed, what can they give in return for their life?

So if you and I got into the drive-thru line for our ashes to begin Lent this year, or picked up our Lenten enchiladas at the gas station, or whatever else it is that we may have done so far during this annual period of repentance and re-orientation, are the things that we’re doing of the type that naturally help us, by God’s grace, to become more likely and more able to follow Jesus with our own crosses in tow? Or are they things that just help us to feel religious while leaving the houses of our souls exactly as messy and disoriented as they were last Lent, and the one before, and the one before, etc.?

A Prayer for the Day:

Almighty God, who after the creation of the world rested from all your works and sanctified a day of rest for all your creatures: Grant that we, putting away all earthly anxieties, may be duly prepared for the service of your sanctuary, and that our rest here upon earth may be a preparation for the eternal rest promised to your people in heaven; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.*

A Prayer for the Week:

O God, whose glory it is always to have mercy: Be gracious to all who have gone astray from your ways, and bring them again with penitent hearts and steadfast faith to embrace and hold fast the unchangeable truth of your Word, Jesus Christ your Son; who with you and the Holy Spirit lives and reigns, one God, for ever and ever. Amen.*

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*From The Book of Common Prayer **Credit is due here to Robert Pelfrey's sense of humor.

[This is part of 40 Days of Prayer: Daily Emails for Lent]

Day 9: Your Followership Skills

As much as our culture emphasizes the need for leadership and the development of our leadership skills, Lent is an annual reminder to us that–at least during these days each year–our focus is rightly put on our abilities and skills as followers. Though we are quick to turn everything into a call to leadership, the statement from Jesus we've been looking at this week says nothing about growing the influence we have over others and everything about growing the influence that this Messiah-en-route-to-his-death has over us: "Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me and for the gospel will save it." Lent invites us to lay aside the urge to continue measuring ourselves by our competencies as leaders and focus instead, very honestly, on our competencies as followers of Jesus. Are we developing the abilities that will be required over the long haul in this daily journey of denying ourselves, taking up our crosses and following our king? Here are three essential areas in which we would be wise to continually develop our followership:

• Our Minds: How well do we know the story of this ancient Jew whom we claim to be following? I don't see how it can be possible to follow someone well while knowing very little about them. So how well do we know the stories of Jesus contained in the books of Matthew, Mark, Luke and John? Once we try to learn them well, we will surely recognize that we need some help in understanding some of them, which will lead us to a second set of stories we need to learn well: those stories that shaped the thinking of our Leader himself, the stories of God, Israel, and the world in the Old Testament. If we desire to follow Jesus well, during this Lent and the rest of our lives, we must fill our minds with these stories, constantly letting them sink in more deeply.
• Our Habits: Do the habits that we have make it natural for us to follow Jesus toward the cross, or do they only serve as obstacles in the way of any efforts we make at followership? The things we do either open us up to God's work in us, or they close us off to it.
• Our Relationships: Denying ourselves, taking up our crosses, and following Jesus are impossible alone. We pay attention to the importance of relationships in leadership, but it is underemphasized when it comes to our abilities at followers. Which relationships that you now have help you to follow well? Which ones tend to get you off of Jesus' tracks?

A Prayer for the Day:

Almighty God, whose most dear Son went not up to joy but first he suffered pain, and entered not into glory before he was crucified: Mercifully grant that we, walking in the way of the cross, may find it none other than the way of life and peace; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.*

A Prayer for the Week:

O God, whose glory it is always to have mercy: Be gracious to all who have gone astray from your ways, and bring them again with penitent hearts and steadfast faith to embrace and hold fast the unchangeable truth of your Word, Jesus Christ your Son; who with you and the Holy Spirit lives and reigns, one God, for ever and ever. Amen.*

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*From The Book of Common Prayer

[This is part of 40 Days of Prayer: Daily Emails for Lent]